Living your Values is more than just how you show up for people. It is more of the way you are in the world, as a human being. When we are upset with people its often because they don’t share the values. In marriages, it is often the values of the people that draw and hold them together and when they don’t match, it can tear people apart.
So many people have no clue what they stand for, and we know the old saying, if you don’t know what you stand for, you could stand for anything.
Your Authentic Life
Your values play a huge part in the decisions you make, how you show up and the things that make you who you are.
When you are not being your authentic self, you don’t feel so much like you can hold your head up high. Talking about people behind their backs doesn’t hurt the other person, but sure has an impact on you. Making choices that make you feel bad is your subconscious telling you that you are not being true to yourself.
Your values are all part of your belief system. What you hold to be important. People who live in congruence with what they believe to be true, often are held up as being true Leaders, as they can authentically lead from a place of truth.
Knowing who you are and what you stand for is always your first point of clarity. Being able to be true to yourself and communicate that impacts relationships and supports your career. When you dare to live according to your standards, some may not feel comfortable with you, especially if they are hiding behind their own facade, but in truth, over the longer term people will respect you, and as a leader, you will be a magnet to those who also live their values.
If you are in a leadership role, your people will follow you easily because they know what you stand for. Holding people accountable is easy when you both understand each others values. This results in increased productivity and a happier team. of people.
The impact on people
Culture really is a result of people who are aligned in the same way, coming together to create an environment that is fits with everyone’s values is the hallmark of a great family, community and workplace. Yet so often we see “leaders” barking orders and handing down culture to the people who work “under” them.
You might think that when you are not living your authentic self that no one else notices. Can you think of someone in your own environment that does that. Are they aware you notice? You might be feeling like an impostor, or a fake. The world is full of those who choose to live a valueless life. Some countries are led by such people. They may be in leadership positions, but are they leaders?
Collaboration from Values
Having a collaborative culture makes life just easy. Knowing what you can rely on each other for and being mindful of the needs and values of others naturally creates a better culture, and in turn has amazing outcomes such as better relationships, more open and honest communication and in the workplace, better engagement.
No matter where you are in the world, or what you do for a living, you values are definitely driving the bus. They have an impact every moment of every day. When considering how you work with people, it might be helpful to notice the unspoken drivers that underpin the team. Here are some examples you might like to bring up in conversation
Communicating Honestly and openly
While these are just a few possible values, how did you feel when you read them? How is your team, or your family living theirs? Do you know yours and are you living them? Join the discussion here